Dr. Rajalaxmi Walavalkar, Senior Gynaecologist and IVF specialist at Cocoon Fertility
The golden rule for every successful relationship is communication. It’s not only about talking to your partner but also about expression of respect, love and care for each other that leads to a healthy bond between the couple eventually steaming up their sexual life. Having a strong relationship with your loved one helps you to be fit both mentally and physically and always in the best of your moods. A happy atmosphere at home, good lifestyle, positive attitude, mutual respect towards each other helps to form a beautiful intimate and unbreakable relationship. A bond with a person is completely subjective and there are no written guidelines to execute it yet there are certain tips which if followed can lead to a strong relationship.
Open up to your partner:For any kind of relationship, be it emotional, mental or physical, the most important factor is to know your partner really wellwhich helps to build the foundation and keep it strong. Honesty is the key; one has to talk their heart out and be truthful to their partner about their feelings. To preserve an open and strong relationship, it is important to share your moods, grievances, health issues or anything in your mind with your partner. Even for maintaining a healthier intimate relationship, you need to express your preferences to each other.
Reach outto your partner:It may happen that sometimes one of the partners may not have an inclination towards physical intimacy, respecting that feeling and sharing it with the other partner is very essential. If you feel that your loved one is having a feeling of anxiety to take a step forward, embrace them with their shortcomings and try to understand what they are going through. Express your affection by understanding their state of mind and help them overcome it. These situations are the real test time for the couple to prove their love and care for each other which can also help to strengthen the bond between them.
Keeping sexual hygiene at the utmost priority: Practise safe sex and take care of your sexual hygiene by protecting yourself from STDs. Use protection and stay awayfrom unwanted pregnancy.
Mutual consent:For a healthy sex life, mutual consent between a couple is mandatory. Avoid pressurising your partner to do anything that they don’tlike orare comfortable with.
Monitoring your health and fitness regime:It is extremely important to have an active mind and a healthy bodyto achieve a balanced and happy well-being. Eating well and indulging in healthy food,exercising daily and having adequate sleep is a must to keep any kind of health-related issues away from one’s physical relationships. However, this pattern would only help if both the partners religiously follow it or the relationship might still take a setback. To live a happy healthy life both of them should inculcate these habits together.
Especially for women, it is very crucial to maintain a balanced body weight as it helps when they are trying to conceive. If the estrogen in the body is due to the fat and not is not present naturally, it will interfere with the monthly period cycles affecting the process. For couples trying to get pregnant, there will be times when your doctor may alter your diet and introduce certain restrictions. It is ideal to be committed to the cause and follow the expert’s advice to achieve the desired results.
Avoid the blame game:
Relationship is not only about physical intimacy. It is an amalgamation of being emotionally, mentally and physically present for your partner. Accepting this with patience is advisable rather than blaming your partner for it, as itmay result in emotional crumples, hampering the relationship.Every couple should follow this, especially the ones who are trying to conceive a baby. Having a family is everyone’s dream, but there may be times when the couple may have issues like infertility or are not able to conceive naturally. This kind of a phase is really depressing for couples and difficult to cope with most importantly for them who are more than eager to have their own baby. In such a scenario, blaming the partner for any kind of aberrations is completely unfair on the other’s part. This will only lead to hard feelings shaping up for each other. Harbouring negative emotions against the partner can harm relationships and families. On the contrary, supporting the partner at these testing times defines and gives the relationship a new meaning. There are always different ways to fight infertility, but most important is fighting as a team and not against each other.
Keepnormalcy: For an eccentric physical relationship, mental health should be sound. There may be times when your goal would be to start your family and for some reason, you may be unsuccessful. Channelizing all your energy in a single direction, which may not be easily achievable will be overpowering sometimes leading to a negative impact on the relationship. This won’t work for couples planning a baby as stress will have a severe impact on pregnancy. At such situations focus on your partner as well as on yourselfand let things eventually take it’s course.
A relationship between two people is like a string, if kept too tight, it can break the bond easily. To maintain a proper balance in a relationship, emotionally as well as physically one must adhere to these tips in order to rekindle your relationship and have a strong and steady bond.
